Complete the grieving process and move beyond loss.
Grief can be caused by a death, divorce, or the breakup of a romantic relationship. In fact, there are over forty types of losses that a person may experience over a lifetime. In The Grief Recovery Method I am not going to tell you, “I know how you feel,” because I don’t. Neither does anyone else. Every person is unique, and every relationship is unique. Your feelings are normal and natural. The problem is that we have been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural.
While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with loss is not normal, natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss, but most of the information we have learned about dealing with loss is intellectual.
Myths about grief
Time heals all wounds
Replace the loss
Don’t feel bad
Just looking at the myth that "time heals" creates the idea that a person only has to wait and will eventually feel better. The founders of the Grief Recovery Method have known people who waited ten, twenty, thirty, and forty years, and still didn’t feel better. And they would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but it had compounded the pain.
People say, "You have to let go and move on in your life," but they don’t tell you what you need to do to accomplish that. The Grief Recovery Method, developed and refined over the past 40 years, not only makes that possible, but provides partnerships and guidance to ensure that it happens.
What is a Grief Recovery Specialist?
Certified Grief Recovery Specialists help people move beyond death, divorce, and other losses by facilitating Grief Support Groups and One-on-One Programs utilizing The Grief Recovery Method. They come from all walks of life and professional backgrounds, but have one thing in common: a desire to help people.
My husband died, suddenly and unexpectedly, on the Friday before Thanksgiving 2008. Even though I had loving, supportive family and friends, I was lacking the tools I needed to resolve my grief, and I spent more than five years in emotional limbo, at one point winding up in a very dark and unhealthy place. I approached The Grief Recovery Method skeptically, but to my surprise it made a tremendous difference. Having gone through the process, it now feels like a huge burden has been lifted from my body and my spirit. All of my wonderful memories have been returned to me, stripped of the terrible pain that had stolen my happiness. I am grateful now for the opportunity to help others as they travel their own journeys of recovery.
For more about my background and experiences, click on "My Story" above.
What is the difference between The Grief Recovery Method® and other support?
First of all, The Grief Recovery Method is the only grief support program that is evidence-based; that is, it has been clinically proven to be effective in helping grievers deal with the pain of emotional loss in any relationship,
Many support groups provide an environment for you to verbalize the thoughts and feelings you experience following a loss. While there is a benefit to that kind of expression, it is not enough. Simply talking about how you feel does not complete the unfinished emotional business that is attached to a loss. The Grief Recovery Method is designed to guide you through a series of actions to not only verbalize your feelings, but to help you let go of the pain associated with those feelings.
The Grief Recovery Method allows you to retain all of your fond memories while freeing you from the pain these memories may now cause. As a result, you may rediscover your capacity for joy and be able to fully participate emotionally in your relationships again, or perhaps for the first time.